It has been quite some time since I wrote a reflective piece. I have been focusing on food and nutrition in my blog posts but realize that I miss writing about my thoughts and musings. They are part of a healthy spirit as well.
What I love about post-Labor Day here in NYC is Fashion Week, the U.S. Open, the start of the football season, and cooler weather. What I love most, though, is the energy in the city: the hustle and bustle of people as they return from their summer getaways and get back to working hard. It is a New Yorker trait that I missed when I lived in San Francisco. In a city of a “work hard, play hard” mentality, New Yorkers are admirable in that respect.
Although it is still officially summer, it already feels like Fall here in New York. A new season garners new and exciting change… a fresh start. This is another thing I missed when I lived in San Francisco: the change of seasons.
As Fall arrives, it is a time for us all to take a step back and reflect on what we would like to accomplish before the year is over. My year has been one of many changes, some that I quickly embraced and other changes that I took some time getting used to.
And this brings me to the point of today’s post. We all make mistakes as we try to adopt healthier changes for our body and soul. But that is what makes life interesting and allows us to learn what works and what doesn’t for each of our individual lives. The key is to not be so hard on yourself when you realize that you’ve made the same mistake twice or even three times. Acknowledge that it may take more than once for you to finally realize that that particular friend, relationship, or experience is not good for you. We all make the mistake of letting someone back into our lives that we probably shouldn’t, we all make the mistake of overdoing it with alcohol or whatever your poison of preference may be. The point is: it’s okay.
Just remember that it may take you longer to adopt a change than it may take others. It’s not easy to cut out alcohol when everyone else is having work drinks, date drinks, and drinks period. It’s not easy to get rid of people you know are self-serving and self-absorbed when you like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I tend to give people many chances, acknowledging and understanding that sometimes it is the circumstance or groupthink that causes people to act out of character. But I would say that a handful of different experiences at different periods of your life with a person or with a poison is enough to make a decision as to whether they are good for your body, mind, and spirit. And remember, what seemed good for you back then may not be good for you now. And that is okay. We are all evolving human beings. Change is inevitable. It is whether you want that friend, that relationship, or that poison to ride along with you in this joyride we call life.
Everything that happens in our lives is a learning experience. And it is YOUR particular learning experience that is meant to bring you to the next phase in your life. I often like to leave the outcome of my experiences to fate. Although I know I am always given a choice, fate makes that choice I chose a success… or not.
So if you have fallen off the wagon more than once, don’t be so hard on yourself. Dust off your knees and know that you are meant to learn it again until it becomes second nature for you to just KNOW.